marriage part 3
we are very satisfied with each other and like our relationship. we are happy often, fight just enough to remind us not to take our hapiness for granted, and have revealed and accepted each others eccentricities and quirks. the physical relationship is satisfying for both. more “action” is not an offensive idea to jeff or me but i am more emotionally inspired into action and jeff is more physically inspired ;-).
so why not just tie the knot is the question we get, and ask ourselves, from time to time (and are currently considering). there are two reasons that come to my mind immediately: we cannot see into the future (possibilities, opportunites, etc.) and we fear divorce/fear turning into our parents.
as for the later i feel, as childish as it may seem, that there is some switch that goes off as soon as you sign the wedding certificate. you immediately start disrespecting each other, become horrendously selfish, and immediately want to have illicit affairs.
and as for not being able to be able to see into the future. that stems from jeff being my first long term relationship and having only dated 2 people before him. and i have only loved one other person besides jeff (not the two previously mentioned) but that fell way to bad timing (or rejection depending on who you ask.)
so again no conclusion on this topic. i’ll just keep leasing for now.
